Wednesday, May 26, 2010

WHAT ARE YOU MADE OF?

I was flipping through TV the other evening, hoping to find the History Channel, when some show came on about people changing homes and lives with someone else for a time. I didn't watch, but for just a moment I thought about what it would be like if, for a brief moment of days, we were judged by what we had within us, not outside of us.

We too often judge by the obvious, the loud, the flashy only to discover the latest pop star only lip syncs. We rely on the media, on gossip, not realizing that most of that is as false as the motive that drives it. Myself, if you saw me in line at the grocery, you would see a pretty, well fed and curvy "farm gal". No fancy painted nails (hard work makes that a little difficult to keep up), no designer clothes and no fuss. My bag is from Midway or Sears, not Gucci. I'm someone's Mom. Someone's older sister. You might notice the hair or the eyes, or the curve of the hip, but the average young person would dismiss me as ordinary. You would not see that inner strength which could handle a load that would have sent most women and many men, packing. You would not see past the outer human form, one who has learned daily how fragile life can be; how tough, in violence, in loss, we are capable of being. Not the bones and the flesh, for they are transient, but the heart that drives those bones and that flesh into life. Fragile bones of unbreakable will.Look again. If lives were traded for a day, that quiet and unassuming man in the worn, faded but clean overalls at the feed store might be able to command an army, there in that moment being recognized as the complex, efficient steward of that which is important. While the lady or gentlemen on CNN, in their carefully cut hair, $1500 suit, and entourage of hype, would collapse in a bundle of dried sticks, unable to function without that support network of elective self entitlement.
What would it be like if, for all of us, there for a day or a span of days, you were not your bank balance, constituency, spouse, color or neighborhood? You were just you, without that haughty ancestral pride based, not on any core part of yourself, but simply the divine right of birthplace or parentage. A moment in time where you were judged solely on what you've read, what you've learned the hard way, what you are. Where you were valued by your innate abilities to survive and prosper through that day without birthright; handling yourself and your actions without help, teleprompters or a gold card, but simply by the human vanity of your own strengths.

How would we be perceived? And more importantly, who would we elect as our leaders?

23 comments:

elliot said...

What am I made of?

I'm pretty sure it's snips and snails, and puppy dogs tails.

Borepatch said...

Don't know about the others, but I'm told that I'm made of snips and snails and puppy dog tails.

But I like this post. ;-)

YeOldFurt said...

The dirt of rich farmland, the bark of a Live Oak and the heat of the prairie fire. Practical and passionate.
YeOldFurt

Mjolnir said...

Excellent post Brigid! And I don't think I'm alone in telling you you are far from ordianry =)

What am I made of? same as the other guys said, "snips and snails and puppy dog tails."..hehe.

who would we elect as our leaders, well, hopefully we'll have a worthy leader rise from the ashes, so to speak, like Reagan was to Carter...

We'll just have to see what's in store for us.

Crawler said...

I’m of the opinion that the man in overalls is more qualified to take a seat on the Supreme Court or a congressional seat than most of the ones that have. America used to put farmers and other non-legal schooled people on the highest bench in the land or a seat in the Rotunda, why should it be any different now?

I think there comes a time in everyone’s life when they ask themselves just what are they made of and, at times, it’s in retrospect because they’ve just acted instinctively when adversely confronted by great odds and came through it unscathed at best or worse, tarnished.

But in the grand scheme of reality, I strongly believe that no matter how a person fares in the face of adversity, if they have honor, integrity, morals, and just as important, common sense, their traits will be their saving grace. They may not win every battle, but they will persevere in the long run.

Me? I’d vote for the man in the overalls…

Rev. Paul said...

I think I have a reasonable idea what you're made of ... and you're a survivor. One that I'd be happy to have at my back - or by my side - any day.

I'd pay cash money to watch that CNN person crumble into dried sticks, though.

Marlowe said...

"Fragile bones of unbreakable will."

I love you, miss. Haven't been here much, busy with some busted plumbing in the Gulf, but I wanted to say that it always helps to read HOTR, pronounced Hot R.

:)

reflectoscope said...

This is the fascinating thing about blogging: You get to meet people from a different angle than you would had you met they in person.

I wonder how I would look upon the bloggers I know if I'd met they in person first.

Jim

Cond0010 said...

"How would we be perceived? (sic) handling yourself and your actions without help, teleprompters or a gold card, but simply by the human vanity of your own strengths."

Yes. Without Decorum. That clothing we dress ourselves in.

Years ago, when I was a security guard working weekends and pushing myself through college (which I did not finish), I knew a couple Janitors who would come in to clean carpets, vacuum, wax/strip floors and empty garbage cans. For a long time I was friendly, but not real interested in who they were. But, being that weekends would get long and there was no one else, I would visit with them.

I remember visiting with them in the small cafeteria... talking about the lawsuit St jUdes and Medtronic had, how the company was going through difficult times. One of the two was named Maceo. Maceo was born in Jamaica... he was in his sixties (maybe seventies) and very affable in a gruff sort of way. But he appeared ordinary and I saw him in an ordinary light.

I will never forget my moment of realization that he was fabulously rich (I hadn't put 2 and 2 together when he would drive up to the building in with one of several very expensive cars): it was like the world shifted and my eyes re-focused - seeing him 'clothed' in an entirely different way. He had the job because he felt he had nothing better to do at that time.

That was a sad day for me as I was (up to that time) quite proud of the fact that I would not judge a man by his 'clothes'. I guess a 'realization' of a persons status is automatic: you have no control of your perspective. You can fight it consciously, but it is still there.

Sad day. Still it is important to be vigilant and treat people with the G_d given dignity and grace that he/she deserves.

Afterall, you are not your khakis:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4xrIfFeN7Q

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWVxI6XZAuE&NR=1

og said...

"You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world."

Tyler Durdin was right about this: We need to be less about what we have, and more about what we are. Nicely put as always, B.

Greyhawk said...

Elegant and informed. There is nothing plain about you, Brigid. At least, not that I've seen. As far as young people's opinions are concerned, even if today's youth have opinions twice as valuable as mine was when I was young they're still worthless.

And I agree with NetRanger. The day is coming soon. May God have mercy on us all.

MOBro said...

What a world of difference there would be, if only the heart one could see.
The flash of cash, the glint of skin, would fade in comparison to what's within.
But then we would all see like God, and many would find that to be quite odd.
True Love and Joy would then prevail, and we would know the truth: God (who is LOVE) does not fail.
Thanks, M'Lady, wonderful post!

Baby Sis (Texas Red) said...

Very well said, Brigid.
Reminds me of the tv show "The Colony" which big brother Hermit Jim put me onto.
Would that we all might get a chance, as I have in a very small way, to just be "me", and not just a product of the perceived persona... very enlightening.

Enjoy your blog very much - you have a way with words, photos, and food that almost make me envious, but certainly make me glad to be a friend, even if just on the internet.

immagikman said...

Who would I be without my culture and heritage? thats hard to say since it can never be tested. Interesting and thought provoking.

HermitJim said...

As always, lots of food for thought in your post! You have a way of making folks stop and think...and that's a good thing!

Good discussions, good food pics, and as always, a gathering of good people!

Life is good! (Mostly!)

Anonymous said...

I've always thought R. Kipling's poem "Tomlinson" summed up a lot of the folks who appear on TV and in the "right" newspapers and magazines.

"We've handled him, we've dandled him, we've seared him to the bone,/
And sire, if tooth and nail show truth, he has no soul of his own!"

LittleRed1

Old NFO said...

Quiet competence, no histronics, getting the job done- Be it farming, fighting or governing; that is what we need. And that old man in overalls? He may well have been a General... And you would never know it...

TJP said...

Our remarkable invention, society, is supported by a skeleton of social rules, based on the dozens of judgements we make--never better than only partially informed--whether or not anyone in our midst is as we are. Were we able to nullify this habit of discrimination, this ancient tool of survival, to overload it with every detail of every other person with which we shared the planet, the human race would suddenly realize that there are no true cooperators; there could be no trust, and it would promptly self-destruct.

I currently have no need for a leader, and I have no use for followers, either. When I need a leader, however, I'll know where to look.

Mr. Engineering Johnson said...

There's a certain comfort in not conforming to what people think is normal. When you go around looking just a little out of style, or maybe a bit strange it tends to scare off people who are so self conscious that they cannot think for themselves. It's the odd people that usually have something interesting to say. Maybe the members of the human herd are capable of independent thought too, but if they are they always seem too timid to show it to the world.

Mr. Engineering Johnson said...

Oh, and since you touched on the subject of viewing people out of context...a poem on the subject.


"Hullo, young Jones! with your tie so gay
And your pen behind your ear;
Will you mark my cheque in the usual way?
For I'm overdrawn, I fear."
Then you look at me in a manner bland,
As you turn your ledger's leaves,
And you hand it back with a soft white hand,
And the air of a man who grieves. . . .

"Was it you, young Jones, was it you I saw
(And I think I see you yet)
With a live bomb gripped in your grimy paw
And your face to the parapet?
With your lips asnarl and your eyes gone mad
With a fury that thrilled you through. . . .
Oh, I look at you now and I think, my lad,
Was it you, young Jones, was it you?

"Hullo, young Smith, with your well-fed look
And your coat of dapper fit,
Will you recommend me a decent book
With nothing of War in it?"
Then you smile as you polish a finger-nail,
And your eyes serenely roam,
And you suavely hand me a thrilling tale
By a man who stayed at home.

"Was it you, young Smith, was it you I saw
In the battle's storm and stench,
With a roar of rage and a wound red-raw
Leap into the reeking trench?
As you stood like a fiend on the firing-shelf
And you stabbed and hacked and slew. . . .
Oh, I look at you and I ask myself,
Was it you, young Smith, was it you?

"Hullo, old Brown, with your ruddy cheek
And your tummy's rounded swell,
Your garden's looking jolly chic
And your kiddies awf'ly well.
Then you beam at me in your cheery way
As you swing your water-can;
And you mop your brow and you blithely say:
`What about golf, old man?'

"Was it you, old Brown, was it you I saw
Like a bull-dog stick to your gun,
A cursing devil of fang and claw
When the rest were on the run?
Your eyes aflame with the battle-hate. . . .
As you sit in the family pew,
And I see you rising to pass the plate,
I ask: Old Brown, was it you?

"Was it me and you? Was it you and me?
(Is that grammar, or is it not?)
Who groveled in filth and misery,
Who gloried and groused and fought?
Which is the wrong and which is the right?
Which is the false and the true?
The man of peace or the man of fight?
Which is the ME and the YOU?"

Robert William Service

Ag said...

from E. Johnson

"Maybe the members of the human herd are capable of independent thought too, but if they are, they always seem too timid to show it to the world."

.....

Kinda reminds me of the animals in "Animal Farm"

NetRanger said...

I was reading through the comments, then I remembered the essence of this quote by the author Robert Heinlien that reveals what we SHOULD be made of:

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects."

Though my ship was small and my invasion, smaller, the broken bone was just a sprain, and I have a distinct feeling the people that said the meal was "tasty" were lying, I got it covered.

Do not underestimate the sheople. They are not stupid or incapable. I often sense the disgust many of us have. The heroes and the great people of our time just woke up at the right moment. You might find that the person that is behind that camera with the $1500 dollar suite and the $200 haircut has more talent courage and skill than you expect. (S)He just isn't using it. In fact, in the right situation, your own ability to react and become "The One" afterwords will shock the hell out of you!

Humans, often, have the ability to be quivering masses of mindless jelly lacking any courage one moment and superman the next. With the right motivation, people will surprise you.

What is it they say? The 10% principal? 80% will set and do nothing. 10% will be too frightened to do it right so they will panic and do it wrong. The other 10% will forge ahead with confidence and courage.

Pledge to yourself to ALWAYS be that 10%. And, if no one else has confidence in you, just remember, NetRanger does!

Shannon said...

I was considering the same concept as Jim - gaining acquaintances and building relationships through blogging or internet contact in general allows us to abstain from first physical impressions - judgments that our eyes instinctively make which our minds and hearts may not through the written word. What am I made of? One can only surmise such elements by getting to know me.